When I was younger, I remember talking to people about certain events happening in their life and I would just kind of nod my head as if I understood. I'm sure during some of those conversations I probably gave my input on what I think I would do in that circumstance or how I will handle it if that ever happens to me. Honestly, I don't remember any of my responses, but I do know that I never fully understood until I went through the situation myself.
Examples of these experiences:
Being married to a military man
Experiencing a deployment
Moving and living overseas
Having a baby
Having a c-section
Raising a child
Buying a house
Having a husband who travels a lot for his job
I know people who have never experienced these can be kind and offer advice (just as I did), but I think that until you actually experience it you never truly understand.
Of course, I know there are many things that I haven't experienced that others have and so I am learning to be more careful with the words I share in these situations. I want to be encouraging and helpful, but I now know that unless I have been through it myself, I just won't get it.